I think a lot of us are operating on autopilot. We make life choices– big and small alike– based upon what our family expects, what society tells us is acceptable, and what “good, responsible” people do. Have you ever taken the time to question why you’re doing what you’re doing? Is it possible that you’re following someone else’s blueprint for your life? Do you really want to own a house or go to law school? Do you really like living in your hometown, or do you just do it to be comfortable?
I know these are all hard questions, but I think most people are doing themselves a disservice by never questioning their past actions, their current situation or their future trajectory from that lens.
I started working with a life coach last year after an incredible yoga retreat. This has been an absolutely amazing experience for me. The biggest value I’ve gotten from this has been to learn to question every.damn.thing. It can be super confronting to realize you’ve been operating on someone else’s programming– especially for an independently minded person like myself. It has pushed me to grow in ways I could not have anticipated, and I am thrilled to see how far I’ve come and to continue to dream of what my future holds.
I’ve thoroughly reshaped my life in the last year and refocused it to fill what I value. For me that has been pushing myself out of my comfort zone (exploring entrepreneurship), pursuing passions that I let fall by the wayside(my podcast is coming soon!), and being super selective on exclusively doing things that push me towards growth. I’m slowly letting society’s, my family’s, my cultural expectations fall by the wayside as I listen to myself more and follow my intuition.
In this new year, I invite you to take some time to reflect on your life(finances, work, social life, hobbies, etc.), what you truly value and whether those match up. If not, you have an important choice to make as to whether you want to continue as you have been, or if you’re going to shift things to be more in alignment with your values.